A question some people ask themselves
is whether marriage and dating are different.
“It’s the same. We love each other, and
nothing changes besides wearing rings,”
said Ines Martin, a 25-year-old Bucks
nanofabrication technology major.
Martin, who is from Germany, married
31-year old Joe Marin III on Sept. 27,
2007.
She fell for Joe’s personality, calmness,
artistic ability and the fact that he’s laidback.
But the thing about the couple is after
they hung out for the first time on Jan. 5,
2007, they both said they weren’t sure
about each other.
“I thought ‘I don’t know if he’s for me.’
He’s very nice, but let’s see what happens,”
said Martin.
On their first date, she didn’t expect him
to pay. Also, she didn’t wear makeup.
“I don’t like makeup. If I don’t wear it,
then why would I [do it for the date],” she
said.
Her host-mom, which is a person who
hosts people from different countries, was
trying to put it on her and she took it off because
she thought she wasn’t being herself.
The next element of this story is love.
Ines Martin and Joe were texting and she
wrote to him: I love you. He wrote that he
would rather tell her personally.
So a few days later, he was hugging her
tight and said, “Babe, I love you.”
While they were dating, they only got to
see each other a few times a week. That is
a problem between couples sometimes.
There just isn’t enough time in the day to
see one another. But it worked out for the
two of them.
Ten minutes after their first date Joe sent
her a text message asking if she would like
to hang out again. After nine months of
hanging out and enjoying each other, the
missing piece of the puzzle came: the proposal.
Joe bought her flowers and asked her to
come into the bedroom where he had set up
a picture frame with the ring in front of it.
She said thank you for the gifts, but didn’t
notice the ring.
“It was funny because I didn’t see it at
first,” she said.
She was so proud he picked out the ring
himself.As many people know, guys aren’t
as equipped at picking out jewelry, so she
was more than happy about the ring.
He’s not a traditional guy, said Martin.
But that doesn’t mean he won’t open doors
for her.
“We’re different from most people
around us,” she said.
The question on their minds lately concerns
kids.
“We will see about kids. We’re still not
sure. We’re talking about adoption,” said
Martin.
Joe supports her in whatever she does in
life. He is a self-employed painter, while
she is a babysitter. When she’s not busy,
she helps him with his other business in ceramics.
The rather uncommon thing about their
relationship is Joe said he wouldn’t marry
anyone around the Pennsylvania area. And
look at them now. They are happily married
and loving every minute of it.
A funny thing about Joe is he calls Ines
“babe,” but when he wants to tease her, he
calls her by her name.
Guys flirt with girls in different ways.
Some guys ‘mock’ girls, which is another
way of flirting, to show their interest.
While Martin was talking about her husband,
she glowed. You could tell by the
way she spoke she really loves him.
Now for some people, you might say this
was rather quick, but the good part of this
story is they seem to complete each other.
“We’re still happy just like on the first
day,” said Martin, with a cheek-to-cheek
smile. “I was lucky he asked me out.”