She had a boyfriend
when he first met her, but
he wasn’t interested in her.
Not yet at least.
“It wasn’t love at first
sight at all! It was more of
a ‘Hmm she seems nice.
She’s really cute, and she’s
friends with some of my
friends , so that’s cool,”
said Joshua McAdams, 20,
a journalism major at
Temple University “[I
wasn’t like] predicting a
relationship or crushing at
all.”
Josh met Linh Truong,
19, at Temple University in
April of 2009. He had a
group of friends that she
joined . Josh mentioned her
being shy, but with ‘constant
haggling’ she opened
up.
“I would just make
small talk when we hung
out and try to include her
in any other conversations
I was having. I got her to
become really open with us
all, and boy can she be a
firecracker sometimes,”
said Josh.
He realized he was starting
to like her a lot.
“I realized how I was
crushing and doing anything,
like driving 40 minutes
to her house to give
her some paintball equipment
and have a quick chat
on the stoop for example,
just to be near her,” said
Josh.
But Josh said his only
problem was her boyfriend
Mike.
“I thought I didn’t have
a chance because she
seemed to like him, though
I didn’t really know the
extent of [how much] when
I met him he seemed really
nice,” said Josh.
Linh would call up Josh
to tell her the problems she
was having with Mike. She
would call Josh late at
night to talk about what he
did.
“She would talk about
what he does that annoys
her, how she feels he doesn’t
really care, how she
isn’t sure why they are still
dating, what he expects to
get out of the relationship,
what she is really looking
for you know, the works,”
said Josh. “No restraints
really, she would talk about
everything and anything
that skimmed her
mind.”
It seemed like
Josh and Linh
became close pretty
quickly. As all relationships
should
start out, they were
good friends before
anything else.
Mike and Linh started
dating in early 2009, then
they mutually decided to
split in July 2009. That’s
when Josh stepped in, so to
speak.
“I comforted her, tried to
explain to her why he said
what he did, listened to her
reasoning for breaking up,
helped her figure out what
to do next and so forth. I
was really being the closest
thing to a shoulder to cry
on for her than anyone else
But I couldn’t help but
think in my head after we
hung up ‘Man I really like
this girl,’ but now I have to
bear a few more months
before it will even be okay
to ask her out. She needed
time to settle and recover,
but I’m an impatient guy,”
said Josh.
“Sadly, being merely
human has forced that idea
into my head after the chat.
I feel terrible about thinking
that way but at the
same time, I was just glad
he is out of the way, and I
had a chance to eventually
prove that I wouldn’t be as
foolish, hurtful and misguided
as many guys can
be,” he said.
There are some guys
who never appreciate their
girlfriend no matter what.
In the end, he could lose
her. It’s sad, but that’s life.
Unless you
change
that. Do it
today.
Josh waited until
November to ask her out.
He gave her a lot of time to
get over the break-up. He
was very patient.
He was driving her
home and he went around
the block once because he
was getting nervous. She
didn’t even notice. Then he
made the move.
“I said ‘Hey, Linh, I really
like you a lot. I’ve been
drawn to you more and
more recently, and I want
to get to know you more,
so will you go out with
me?'”
She told him she wasn’t
ready for a relationship yet.
You would have thought it
would have been awkward
the next time they saw
each other, but Josh reported
it wasn’t.
But on January 13,
2010, something happened.
Josh went to New York
City with Linh to see his
friend do stand-up comedy.
They walked around Times
Square and Central Park.
They were flirting and
playing around on their
ride home on the train.
Which was Josh’s best part.
“As our train was nearing
our station she leaned up
and said ‘Okay… so I
like you a lot too’
out of no where. I
said really stupidly
‘like… like
like me a lot?’
And she said
‘yeah’ so I asked
‘should I ask you?’
she said ‘yeah’ so I did
and then she had the most
amazing reaction ever,”
said Josh. “She said, ‘Yeah
I’ll go out with you, just
don’t look at me.'”
Then as they were walking
to his car, they held
hands. I bet no one has
ever heard anyone ever say
that to them.
Josh would call this his
first real relationship. His
feelings grow stronger and
stronger for her.
“I feel amazing as if I’m
on top of the world when
she’s around, the process of
her being on the tip of my
mind when she’s not
around. How nothing
about her irritates me but
only makes me want to
learn from her and teach
her what I have,” said Josh.
“The feeling as if you’d
give up everything you
own to be with her forever
and the wishes that you
had met her sooner.”
Josh is Caucasian and
Linh is
Vietnamese/Cambodian,
but both parents don’t have
a problem with that. As
long as they like each
other, that’s all that matters.
The most important
thing is how the other person
makes you feel.
Linh added in that she
loves Josh’s eyes. Josh
considers himself a ‘pretty
sensitive and emotional
guy.’ How many guys in
the world would be patient
enough to wait for a girl to
get over a break-up? There
aren’t too many.
“I feel that this is the
deepest relationship that I
have been in. I feel more
connected to this girl than I
ever thought I would to
anyone,” said Josh smiling
from cheek-to-cheek. “To
be cliché, she completes
me, but to be sincere, I see
myself with her forever.”

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