Welcome back Bucks students!
My name is Dalia and
I have taken over the Hope
& Love column in the
Centurion. I’m here to
answer your questions about
love, relationships, breakups,
and even the single life.
This week’s topic is balance.
We all know when you’re in
a relationship you have to
balance your time between
your friends and your partner.
But what about the other
parts of your life?
Most Bucks students work
part-time or full-time jobs
and do extracurricular activities
(sports, music, art, writing
for this newspaper). On
top of all these things, you
have family and friends. Can
you handle having a
boyfriend or girlfriend?
Personally, I go to school
five days a week, have some
kind of homework nightly,
work two nights a week,
practice my violin about five
to six hours weekly, and I
work all day Saturday and
Sunday, with a whopping
one weekend off per month.
I barely have time for
friends, let alone a boyfriend.
The few precious hours a
week I have to myself are
like gold. Without them, I’d
go crazy! We all need some
“me time,” right?
I am by no means advising
people to not get into relationships.
If you have the
capacity to share your love
with someone else, go for it.
However, first make sure you
have time to do so.
So what do you do when
you’re in a relationship with
someone who has very little
time for you?
Be patient with them, and
show that you’re always
there for them. Do little
favors for them. Opt to make
date night a relaxing night in,
instead of a time-consuming
night out. Don’t take it personally
when your partner
says they don’t have time.
Being their boyfriend or girlfriend
means you support
them, not hold them back.
You’re supposed to be sharing
your love. If you find
yourself getting greedy,
maybe you should backtrack
and figure out if you should
be in a relationship in the
first place.
Then there are those who
have a full plate that includes
school, work and everything
in-between, with a romantic
relationship on top; you
know who you are. If you’re
shaking your head, that’s a
problem for you to work out.
Love does not care if you
have no time or all the time
in the world. To make the
relationship work, try
planning ahead for
dates and learn your
limits. You need “me
time.”
If you can’t find
the time to share
your love with
your partner,
please reconsider
your relationship.
Life comes first;
love is like the cherry
on top.I hope I
shed some light on
this topic. No one
really realizes
how time consuming
a relationship
is. Until next week
Centurion readers:
remember to have
fun, laugh and love.
How do Bucks students balance school, work and their relationships?
Kyle Proctor, 21, an undeclared student from Newtown: ”I think it depends on so many things…how serious you want the
relationship to be…how you keep up with your school work…your home
situation. So many things take part in it.”
Rachel Barbash, 20, an early childhood education student from Richboro:”School work comes first, then work, then the
relationship. The person has to know to be reasonable
and flexible. It’s hard to balance it, but you have to.”
Bridget Haller, 19, a biology student from Bensalem:”I think it is hard, but if it is
important to you, you can make
time to balance all three.”
Bill Parks, 24, a business student
from Churchville:”Yea, it works. It was easy (to balance
work, school and a relationship).
Maybe because I’m older. I’ve been
engaged for three years.”
QUESTIONS:
Have a love question or
comment? Email Dalia at
[email protected]
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